Friday, September 3, 2010

Loving Alone means you're never Lonely

I love being alone.
But it took a long time for me to admit it.
As a kid, I could play for hours on my own.  I went gladly all in for bath time.
The library, the book store and eventually flea markets and movies, all to myself.  As an adult, the possibilities were endless.  But I never, outside my family, expressed how I often preferred being alone.  Not until I met a boy in college who felt the same way.   We realized soon after we met that we were the ones at the local cinema, watching the latest foreign film, by ourselves.  It was a point of pride and a point of bonding... and then... we started going together.  Which, of course, lost the original purpose.

The attraction to others that love to be alone is just that:  They know what they like.  And that's always really beautiful.

But, the point of being alone is not that you'll hopefully find someone else to do that thing with.  It's to appreciate what it is you love doing and being in the moment of it.

I've never seen a better example, explanation, or lyrical argument for being alone than Andrea Dorfman and Tanya Davis' video.



{thanks to T. for finding}

9 comments:

'odd and old' Linda Dacey said...

I have to agree that being alone can be special;I have seen many an Art movie alone with a slice of carrot cake and a tremble of excitement for the solitary decadence of it all! However, for me, being alone is only fun when I know that at the end of the day that special person or persons is/are there in my life...

Anonymous said...

this might change me. thank you mol, what a perfect reminder and inspiration this lil gem is. xo sar

Marnie said...

Just went to your website to check out this video after we spoke about it on Tuesday, Molly, and there it WAS!! It's great!

Dominique said...

"'Cause if you're happy in your head then solitude is blessed..."

Oh, Familia, I wish you all could understand that...

I miss being alone.

Thanks for the video, Molly.

Marion Williams-Bennett said...

What a beautiful celebration of alone, and such a reminder of what an come to us when we are alone, in the quiet places with just our breath.

thank you for finding this and for sharing.
m.

le_garcon said...

Thank you for that! That was truly so inspirational and it made me feel better that I can actually enjoy being alone. There is nothing wrong with being alone.

Cheers, Gene.

marysmither@gmail.com said...

After I read your post I realize that there are others out there who enjoy being alone just as much as I do.

I think we are very fortunate to be able to entertain ourselves.

Jeanneoli said...

I loved this. I was just going to blog abou this very thing. Thanks for the push.

Bonbon Oiseau said...

in paris and alone and what a wonderful thing to watch. i am always so incredibly inspired and uplifted after visiting you here mol--can't waqit for a real life catch up. soon? when!?